Saturday, April 2, 2011

All I Ever Needed to Know I Learned From Infertility

All I ever needed to know I learned from Infertility.  These are the things I learned:
  • Friends don't need to provide solutions.  Just to listen without judgement or bias. 
  • When a situation seems ridiculously unfair, make a joke about the absurdity of it all.  You just might laugh.
  • No matter how bad things seem, you eventually need to get out of bed and face another day.
  • Time is measured in cycles.  Some cycles are better than others.
  • You are not alone.  Someone else is struggling too. 
  • Be sensitive to others.  You never know what personal battles they are facing. 
  • Even when life is not perfect, don't forget to count your blessings.
  • Appreciate those who love you.  Even when they don't know what to say to make it better.
  • You can't control all your life circumstances.  Only your responses to them.
  • Be good to yourself.  
  • Pity parties - when applied sparingly - can be very therapeutic.  You don't have to be happy all the time.
  • Jealousy is human.  Don't beat yourself up over it.  But don't let it run your life.
  • Life doesn't always go according to plan.  That doesn't mean you get to give up.
So many things that you need to know are in there somewhere.  Empathy, self-care, endurance, love and daily living.   And, when all is said and done, my hope is that the final infertility lesson is this:  the things that you appreciate most in life are those that you fought hardest to achieve!